Allow me to vent?

[Mrock]

Hey guys,

As you know, my time is winding down. I have 13 days till I'm off to fort jackson. I had made plans to visit my family in ohio (2 brothers, father, some aunt/uncles/cousins, etc) for a few days before leaving..since I havent' seen them in like 2 years. Well, yesterday I got a call saying "oh, by the way, you have to be at your unit for your drill on the 8th", which I knew nothing about. Of course, the 8th was one of the days I was supposed to be in Ohio visiting family. I called today, and told them, and they went postal on me. Now, instead of receiving support for this huge decision, I'm having my own brothers (and father) hang up on me, and tell me they are too busy to talk to me...because of me not being able to visit.

Any thoughts, similar situations with family kind of turning their back on you like that? I'm thankful my family here in missouri is still supportive, but it's hard, considering my brother dan (25), who said "sorry, I'm too busy, bye <click>", is one of my brothers that I look up to a lot, and my father- well...that relationship has been rocky for a while now, but regardless, it'd be easier with a little support.

Anyways, I just needed to vent, it's a frustrating time. Thanks guys...

-Mike

[Blind Sheppard]

Well you need to the next time you get a chance to get a break spend the majority of the time with your brothers and father, just forget about it and pretend it never happend, your brothers and father will have just been disapointed that you couldn't visit them and won't really be angry, if you act like they didn't hang up on you and didn't get angry at you for something is beyond your control they won't see a reason to bring it up either.

[arstraub]

Boys will be boys, no matter how old they may be. Rather than dealing with the way they feel or the reasons they may be upset with you they choose to ignore, so as to "forget" that anything's wrong. It's always easier to go through tough times when you have suport, especially from home. Just realize that while it may seem that they're mad at you, really, they're just feeling like they're unimportant to you and that they don't matter. Even though it's not as important as family, you need to know that there a thousands of people supoprting you, it's the whole "greater cause" thing. Although we may not say it, we all appreciate all that you do and support you in everything, as does your family.

[chickaboarder13]

Getting really pissed off and acting quickly runs in your fam... just not all of them notice it, care, or try to controll themselves and think before talkin/acting. i know you're brother cares... he's just frustrated. for all he knows you could get sent off away or avoiding him. even if you are busy. he's mad you can't come up there, and he's got no other outlet but you to take it out on.just hang in there.. see yah tommorrow

[BakerStencil]

Seriously I would say "Well see ya another time then, if you want to see me next time I'm availible heres my Number." and just leave it like that, I'd be pretty POed if I were you. There nothing wrong with you feeling that way Mike just remember that you did nothing wrong.

[Iman00b]

Originally posted by Mrock
Hey guys,

As you know, my time is winding down. I have 13 days till I'm off to fort jackson. I had made plans to visit my family in ohio (2 brothers, father, some aunt/uncles/cousins, etc) for a few days before leaving..since I havent' seen them in like 2 years. Well, yesterday I got a call saying "oh, by the way, you have to be at your unit for your drill on the 8th", which I knew nothing about. Of course, the 8th was one of the days I was supposed to be in Ohio visiting family. I called today, and told them, and they went postal on me. Now, instead of receiving support for this huge decision, I'm having my own brothers (and father) hang up on me, and tell me they are too busy to talk to me...because of me not being able to visit.

Any thoughts, similar situations with family kind of turning their back on you like that? I'm thankful my family here in missouri is still supportive, but it's hard, considering my brother dan (25), who said "sorry, I'm too busy, bye <click>", is one of my brothers that I look up to a lot, and my father- well...that relationship has been rocky for a while now, but regardless, it'd be easier with a little support.

Anyways, I just needed to vent, it's a frustrating time. Thanks guys...

-Mike

Their just pissed cause they were probably all hyped up on you coming home just to find out you wont be there (again). Dont worry, come back with a bullet wound or two and they will probably forgot all about how mad they were at you.

[NIGhtMAre]

^thats just stupid man, and also..you didn't need to quote his whole post.

Just chill man, If they are being harsh to you then don't call them untill you have some free time again. then call them and say your coming to visit them. Everything will be forgiven then, I hope.

[It'sFae]

Originally posted by Iman00b
Dont worry, come back with a bullet wound or two and they will probably forgot all about how mad they were at you.
What the hell? God that's stupid.

Anyways my family is like that, but I learned to ignore them. Just look at the ones who support you and think about them and how much they love you. I know it must hurt that your other family members are doing that, but I'm sure they'll rue the fact that the didn't get to see you before you left. It's not your fault so there is no reason for you to feel bad.

[.pie.]

Im sure they are just very worried.

[rankz]

Thats a bit of a bugger

[Ramp]